I'm posting because it's been a helluva couple weeks and it's tough putting this kind of stuff on FB, plus, I don't want to clog folks timelines with this long rant...
First, we had the weeks long 'marriage license caper'...wherein getting married in a 3rd world Country makes getting your marriage license copy next to impossible and/or really friggin hard. We did get it, and ultimately did have the original, put in a safe place by Hubs 15 years ago. I never even knew we got it on our wedding day, but was glad to locate it for health insurance verification!
Second, I experienced a loss of someone I thought was a friend, or at least part of my Jazzerfamily..and it sucks.
I try very hard to be good to our staff and our clients every day. I know, after 20 years of experience, I cannot make everyone happy, but I do my best. People grow, change and move on and I really enjoy seeing that and being a little part of it. I've known a lot of young ladies since HS and college and seeing them graduate, work on their careers, become married ladies and have kids is one of the most fun parts of my job (especially given that I was never able to have kids of my own). I've had a couple experiences where, when folks need to move on or have a major life change, they are adverse to that change (even though it may really be positive) and they handle it really badly. In fact, I've been cursed out (both in private and in front of customers), had threatening mail and emails sent to me (real police involved threats) and lots of lies spread around about both my actions and my character. I've endured, unwelcome visits to my facility, intimidation of my instructors, rude behavior, name calling, calls to Corporate, stalking behavior, bigotry, anti-semitism...All that said, this last week takes the cake.
You know, you think after 10 years you know someone, but you don't in some cases. You go out of your way to make that person's life easier where you're involved and think you're doing your best. You overlook snide comments and rude behavior and make excuses for this person-stressed, tired, lots going on, when, really, there's NO excuse for their actions. They hold themselves up like they're so charitable, caring, etc. but they truly ONLY think of themselves...all the damn time.
And rude? The rudest.
But, still, you love them and you look at yourself, you're certainly NOT perfect (speaking of myself here), you have your own moments, and can also be tough at times. And, you shouldn't qualify caring about someone, you gotta take the whole package, especially if you live by the 'treat others the way you want to be treated' rule, so, you let it go. You let it go when they make a REALLY snide comment during a BIG event in front of your clients, you ignore the obvious lying, you play down the mean girl comments to co-workers...none of which you should have ignored. Why do SOME people get a pass? They shouldn't. And, you don't listen to the ONE person who saw through it all from day 1, even though she is clearly RIGHT...
Maybe this wouldn't have happened if I'd addressed it from day 1, when I recognized the lying, which came out of nowhere and was for something of NO consequence. Maybe it wouldn't have happened if I called this person on her 'mean girl' behavior with co-workers...so I take my part of the blame.
BUT, not the part of the blame thrust upon me, 10000000% inappropriately by said person, on a topic I have literally nothing to do with yet am blamed for so this person can try and dodge responsibility, which, by the way, didn't work. Do she think everyone but her is stupid?
It's called a total lack of personal responsibility. She has none and you know why? Because we all gave her a pass. Oh that's just her or, she's stressed or she has a lot going on. Well, F*ck, so do the rest of, oh, EVERYBODY. Who isn't stressed, tired or has a lot going on??? Anyone? Buehler?
So, I found out last week that I was wrong, I didn't know this person. She thinks it's perfectly ok to treat people rudely, believe the sun revolves around her and also believe that she alone is stressed, tired or has too much going on in life. She believes she's the only one who has EVER dealt with a life change or a job change and everyone should just bend to her will and attitude because of it. SHE is the center of everyone's universe, someone who's mood can bring down an entire room when she enters.
Well, here's a news flash...you are NOT the center of the universe and I'm here to tell you that. Someone should have told you NO a few times in your life so you'd be more caring of others' time and feelings. I don't care about your feelings any longer and YOU did that with your lies and your inexcusable behavior. You're a grown ass woman and you should know better. Do you honestly think it's ok to act like this? Because it's not, especially at your age.
I gave you respect, love and care but, no more, and when you blame someone, look in the mirror. Oh and as you continue to talk about me behind my back, make sure you're accurate because no one is falling for your crap.
Oh and the warrant you spoke about, consider this it.
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